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Most of my friends are girls and Ive always had a hard time connecting with guys. When I started college I was introduced to a dude and we hit it off. He went on to become my best friend.
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I met a guy in my University, he is one of the senior lecturer and I am one of the mature students at this Uni. I am about four years older than him, but he is a very nice guy. He has bought me drink once, help me with a project and even gave me a ticket for the upcoming graduate show in London.
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I found your article extremely helpful. Thanks for what you have done! I still talk to them from time to time, but circumstances Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends people change, and as you have less in common, you just drift apart. John, thanks for your comment.
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For me, there have been many times I would have liked to reach out to a male friend or maybe he was just a good acquaintance? This is where getting involved in groups, volunteering and so on will help to develop friends both male and female who actually care about you not just to have people at your funeral.
I was also glad to read of other men finding it easier to talk with women than men. The authors of this book are friends but differ on whether men and women can be simply friends [PH]. Angsty, over-analytical whiner that he was. Jimmy and Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends met at university and remain part of the same friendship group that formed there. We got on, so we became friends. There was no agenda or conscious decision behind it.
There are non-drinkers and there are those who habitually lie to the doctor about their weekly intake of alcohol. Some listen to house music, some prefer Andrew Lloyd Webber musicals. Why is that the thing that makes the friendship doomed to fail? Harry and Sally ended up together. In This Life, Anna and Miles hated each other because they loved each other. In which case, it's best not to eat your bait. Men aren't uncomplicated, they seem that way because they're functional.
A watch doesn't have all its parts on display unless it's been smashed to pieces, that's why men seem less complicated than women to you. I love the metaphor, but what do you mean with "Functional"?
I think it has more to do with how each gender addresses stress, at least culturally in America?
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He just doesn't necessarily have the freedom to address those feelings in an open or healthy manner. In our culture, the man is expected to compartmentalize. We lock down the section of ourselves that is taking on water, and wait till we reach shore before we open it up again to figure out what happened.
I believe this is what the OP is referring to. I remember when my grandmother died, I largely blamed myself, but my nwe relied on me to keep my shit together so that I could talk to the doctors, secure the DnR, and continue working to help pay rent even though internally I was a wreck, emotionally traumatized because I blamed myself for her death. Realistically, the woman has to do this as much as the man does.
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Women are allowed to express their emotions openly. Sure, the argument can be made that this is a gross generalization. But if you consider how guys comfort other guys, outside of the usual "I'm sorry, man" and "that must be rough" we spend less time saying "it's going to be okay" and probably more time saying "well At least X is not happening, or imagine life from perspective Y.
Women probably receive more friencs for their struggles than men do from a cultural perception. More validation allows them to appear less functional in the face of adversity compared to how men are expected to handle comparable levels of adversity. Imagine men and women as friwnds light boards with a hundred lights. If a light on the Nude therapeutic massage Stonehaven ohio board goes out, the whole board goes out.
She must fix it before the rest of the lights come back on. If a light on the man board goes out, the rest Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends on. He can leave that bulb unfixed and the rest will keep shining. This gives the impression that females are fragile and weak compared to men, which I'd argue is false.
Women are more emotionally charged, so they can appear weak or fragile. Men tend to guu it up until they explode, or slowly self destruct. I can't imagine talking out my emotions with anyone, barring extreme circumstances. My friends are largely the same way. None of us are exploding or self destructive.
Stress and emotions can be taken care of on your own. Personally, I was more self destructive, drinking and avoiding issues rather than dealing with them. I'm not any more, but it took a long plattonic, and tons of work trying to be more self-aware. I see, out of curiosity I wonder: Which is what? Which gender do you believe looks weaker and which gender do you actually consider Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends To me a manwomen lolking weaker because they cry, or have breakdowns, or need to talk about their feelings.
To me Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends a manmen are actually weaker because we can't, don't, or won't do any of those things. What part do you disagree with? I, as a man, am easily able Col talk about my emotions with my close friends. I actually wish I experienced things a bit more emotionally than I do now.
I feel inhuman and robotic sometimes when I talk or I'm in a normally emotional situation. I would give a fortune to achieve what you're describing. This is completely fine. I have no intention of altering your or my position on this, it serves no purpose at all. We're only in a disagreement, not a fight. I know it feels nice to be progressive, but you would quickly change your tune if you had to pick looikng being a part of an all-male or an all-female platoon in a war friencs a ship crew during a storm or Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends a team crunching a hard project in a company.
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To deny this, would be insane. Weaker doesn't have to mean inferior.
friens Glass is a weaker and more fragile than steel, but that doesn't make it an inferior material. Women are on average usually equally capable as men in most roles within the society, superior in some and inferior in others. I'm not calling them stupid and good for nothing, but physical and psychological resilience just isn't their forte.
In most cases mew can easily compensate for it utilizing their relatively extensive support network which they are better at building than menbut without it they simply crumble faster than men. Kooking deny that women are more fragile than men is to deny one of the key truths that determines how societies have been functioning around the globe for the past millenia. Then you're either hanging out in top MMA gyms without training there for some reason or you need to seriously get your shit together.
I may be willing to agree with you there, sir. You provide some rather impressive arguments. I do say, your metaphor was superb! Haha, "get your shit together" depends on who you're asking.
I do pride myself in cold hearten mentality. However, my age together with my nwe of physical" strength is a fair reasoning behind their physical superiority over me. Of course, this gigl only a handful of women that I've met. I'm not the OP you've been talking to, but I'm piqued.
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Women tend to live longer across the board even in towh countries. This one is debateable: Psychologically speaking, and again this is also on an individual basis, but women tend to be more interested in collaborating, forming meaningful relationships and using non-violent means to avoid conflicts between groups. This is a HUGE underplayed character trait; empathy and social cohesion is crucial if you want a society that is less and less barbaric. Women have created support structures which allow them to prosper within our lovely society.
Women are capable If need be to relinquish their "power" status wise and use the physical power of the men such as armies. Women, more often than not are the key to the men. This is often seen in for example: Italian families value their older mothers far more than their older fathers, because at that age the physical advantages of the men has deteriorated.
So you're saying that the main strength of women is their ability to control men using their social status? I mean it's undeniable that women do have a lot of influence over men just look at the "Sex Strikes" in Kenya for a really frirnds example but that makes them out to be manipulative in a way even my exes can only aspire to.
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Just kick ass. Think a fair Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends is cultural. Oh so he is calling me a homosexual? I don't see why he should apply his sexual preference on me, but whatever works for him. I see. Maybe you should go tell your mother how "fragile and weak" she was to destroy her body giving birth to you. It can be as easy as going "Hey, what are we? This simple act allows men and women to focus on the important things in a friendship… which is the friendship itself.
Why invest all your time hanging out with another person if all you're going to do is worry about what you are? Failing to properly communicate with one another Cool new guy in town looking for platonic girl friends a problem that affects just one sex -- as is demonstrated by the eternal debate of what to have for dinner tonight. Let's hit up the elephant in the room right now: Gut takes a lot of finessing and that act of finessing can destroy one or both relationships if done incorrectly.
One of the coolest parts of guys otwn female friends is the wisdom they glean from having what Dr. Walsh calls "an insider view of the other gender.
OK, not every male friend is going to be able to tell you why so many dudes love Buffalo chicken and the movie Gladiatorand not every female friend is going to take the time to explain what lookign pins are and how exactly they work. When you're dating someone, you get an abbreviated view of how his or her Girls Burlington porn works.
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All the real dude and girl stuff happens in private -- like when you're in the shower or they're out with their friends. Realistically, there's a ton of stuff guys and girls do that makes no sense to the opposite sex.